Sunday, September 24, 2006
Individualist VS Collectivist
Thanks all peeps for consoling me and giving me advice on how to be less stressful. I understand why you all asked me to learn to work in groups and share the workload among all members, which I am still not very used to. It is not that I look down on anyone thinking that only I have the ability to complete every piece of work. Honestly I might have thought in this way last time, but not now as I don't have the power to finish everything anymore. However, I admit that I am more an individualist (though I am not born in western countries haha) and feel that group discussion is not effective after all. I am also a perfectionist in school work, which explains why I am so concerned and anxious to the extent that I always want to finish the work alone first and place all burden all my shoulders, without waiting for others. You all may think that I am being selfish and that I won't survive like this in Uni, but I am juz worried, due to the fact that project discussions are not useful at all. For instance, we have been discussing econs tut for so long yesterday, from 2 plus in the afternoon to the time I left (around 7pm) but we only merely touched on 1 or 2 questions. Furthermore during the entire discussion, only those who were concerned would discuss and think of answer together, while those who were not concerned just chit chat most of the time. I guess most of you think that we must have group meeting as it is fair, in the sense that "everyone discuss and do work together". But to me, the fact is the meetings have been so ineffective, looking at our rate of doing work, which I can't tolerate anymore. It would have been so much efficient to break down the questions and all of us do it in pairs, at least. Of course, if I have the ability like last time, I would have called the meeting a day and finish the work all on my own, since not everyone is discussing and helping. Now you may see why I am so intolerant of group discussion and always want to do work on my own. As for now, I feel so stress because I don't have the ability to finish the work on my own (I don't know some of the questions as well) but it makes me heartache to see the rate we are doing things in group. So peeps, it is very hard for you all to persuade me that I should relax and let go and learn to work together so that I can survive in uni and stop feeling stress, unless you all can prove to me that we can finish our work efficiently in group one day.
i am missing you......
i am missing you......
| bluemooon posted at 9/24/2006 11:13:00 am |
1 Comments:
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nawiak commented at 9:27 pm~
leave it as it is girl. THere's nothing u can do if they dun wana be involved in the discussion. PLus, they are the ones who will suffer if they dun participate! Just make sure u get ur tasks done. Discussions are to share knowledge, if u are worried, u can do preparation work for the questions before meeting them then maybe everyone can build on ur answers together? but that would mean extra work load of course. wadever it is .. think u should just relax and think in another perspective .. might help...:)
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